Spanking

Spanking Surveys: All the Questions

This is the final post in a series of spanking survey questions. For this final post, I’ve simply compiled a list of all the questions with none of my answers for those who might be inspired to answer some or all of them on their own blogs. I collected these questions from various memes, surveys, discussion boards, and blogs from across the internet.

Previous parts with my answers are here: one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven, twelve, thirteen, fourteen, fifteen.

  1. Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
  2. How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?
  3. When you were spanked, how hard was it?
  4. Were spankings given on clothing, underwear, bare bottom or nude?
  5. What position were you in for spankings?
  6. Where were spankings given?
  7. What implements were used during your spankings?
  8. Do you feel you’re a better or more disciplined person today because of it?
  9. Who did the discipline in your house?
  10. Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?
  11. What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
  12. Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
  13. When your parents spanked, was it done on the spot while you were standing, or would they make it a bigger event by making you go over their knee or over your bed, etc.?
  14. What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?
  15. Did you cry every time?
  16. How did your parents know you learned your lesson?
  17. What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?
  18. Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?
  19. Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
  20. Were you afraid of your parents?
  21. Were you ever spanked in public?
  22. Were you ever spanked in front of others?
  23. Were you spanked at school?
  24. Which parent would you rather be spanked by?
  25. Did you ever get spanked twice for the same thing?
  26. Did you ever get spanked twice in the same day?
  27. Who pulled down your pants and panties?
  28. Were you given any chance to justify your behaviors before spanking?
  29. Is there a rule for number of strokes for particular offence?
  30. When did your parents scold you about what you did wrong?
  31. What were your parents’ spanking styles like?
  32. What offenses your parents/guardian considered deserving of spanking at the first time without warning?
  33. Were you ever given bedtime spankings?
  34. Were you ever spanked at the same time as someone else? Who went first?
  35. Were you ever told, “Wait until your father gets home?”
  36. What phrases did your parents use to warn you of an impending spanking or to declare your punishment?
  37. Were you ever spared a spanking once one was declared?
  38. How sore your bottom was after a typical spanking?
  39. On a scale of 1-10 how much did the average spanking hurt?
  40. Were you ever spanked for something you don’t feel you deserved?
  41. Was your spanking ever interrupted by a doorbell, phone, or visitor?
  42. Were your spankings ever delayed?
  43. Did you ever have to wait to get your spanking?
  44. Were you ever spanked before school?
  45. With what word did your mom or dad refer to your “bottom”?
  46. What did you do or say when someone said, “You’re going to be spanked”?
  47. Were you ever bruised by a spanking?
  48. How young were you when you received your first spanking?
  49. Did you face corner time after a spanking?
  50. What happened to you after spankings?
  51. Were you ever spanked in a car?
  52. Were you ever spanked in a public restroom?
  53. Were you ever given enemas or other types of physical punishments sometimes coupled with spankings?
  54. How did you feel after a spanking?
  55. Did your parents ever tell you that this would hurt them more than you?
  56. Did your spanker hug/kiss/tell you they love you, right after the spanking?
  57. Do you remember ever doubting their love for you because of a spanking?
  58. Did they ever feel like they spanked you unjustly?
  59. Did they ever tell you that you were too old to be spanked?
  60. Did they ever tell you that you were not too old to be spanked?
  61. Would you mind if they spanked you, for a good reason, in your adult years?
  62. How long were your spankings?
  63. Do you think spanking was better or worse than most of the other punishments your parents or guardians used?
  64. How were your parents disciplined?
  65. Were your parents in a domestic discipline relationship?
  66. Where were you spanked besides your bottom?
  67. Did you feel embarrassed to get a spanking from your parent/guardian?
  68. Did you want to be spanked as a child?
  69. Did you try to earn a spanking as a child?
  70. Did you ever try to get friends spanked?
  71. Did you ever try to get siblings spanked?
  72. Were you a well-behaved child?
  73. Did you ever get spanked or witness a spanking at a slumber party?
  74. Were there times when you should have been spanked but weren’t?
  75. Do you feel your gender ever made a difference in how you were spanked?
  76. Did you ever feel your birth order made a difference in how you were spanked?
  77. Did others know you were spanked?
  78. Did your tears ever affect the length of your spanking?
  79. Were you ever able to talk your way out of a spanking?
  80. Did you have permission to spank any of the kids you babysat? Did you spank them?
  81. Have you ever urinated during a long spanking?
  82. Did you ever check out your bottom after the spanking?
  83. Did you ever check out someone else’s bottom after a spanking?
  84. Did you look up spanking in the dictionary?
  85. How did you feel about spanking in comics?
  86. How did you feel about spanking scenes in books?
  87. How did you feel about spanking on tv and in movies?
  88. Did you get birthday spankings?
  89. Did you spank your dolls?
  90. Did you play spanking games with friends?
  91. Were your friends spanked as teens?
  92. Did you talk about spanking with your friends?
  93. Did you hear spanking threats?
  94. Did you witness any others being spanked?
  95. Did you like watching others be spanked?
  96. Did you ever volunteer for a spanking when you were a child by confessing something naughty you had done but your parents didn’t know about?
  97. Did your parents ever let you choose a spanking versus another punishment option?
  98. Did you ever request a spanking over a grounding or other punishment?
  99. Were you ever involved in a group spanking where many kids were spanked at once for the same “crime”?
  100. Did your parents ever give you the warning of “If you don’t do X by the count of three, you’re getting a spanking. 1…”? How high did your parents count before giving you a spanking?
  101. Did you ever volunteer to take the blame and the spanking for a sibling or a friend?
  102. Did you ever do something stupid as a result of a bet with someone when you were young and then got spanked for it?
  103. Did you ever tell your parents that the spanking didn’t hurt?
  104. When you were a child, were you ever sentenced to several spankings on consecutive days for the same event (such as a spanking every night for a week for unruly behavior)?
  105. Would you ever want to be spanked again by one of your parents as an adult?
  106. As an adult, have you talked to your parents or your siblings about your childhood spankings?
  107. Did you ever wish for another adult to spank you as a child than the ones that already did?
  108. Did you masturbate after your spankings as a child?
  109. Do you find you have an attraction to spanking porn/art/erotica/photos from the era when you were a child?
  110. Have you recreated any of your childhood spankings as an adult during roleplay?
  111. Did you ever make a New Year’s resolution to get less spankings the next year?
  112. Do you have the spanking implement(s) that were used on you as a child and are they used on you as an adult?
  113. Now that you’re older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking with children?
  114. Do you think parents have a right to spank their children?
  115. How do you think parents should spank their children?
  116. What ages do you think parents should spank children?
  117. Is corporal punishment an effective method of disciplining a child?
  118. Does corporal punishment lead to the development of good character?
  119. Does corporal punishment help build respect for authority figures?
  120. Does corporal punishment work better than other disciplinary methods that don’t involve physical pain?
  121. Have you ever intervened in a situation in which a child was being hit by a parent/guardian in public?
  122. Did you spank your own children if you had any?
  123. If you have children would you spank them as a last resort?
  124. If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?
  125. Do you think spankings should be allowed in schools?
  126. Do you think corporal punishment should be considered by the courts for children? For adults?
  127. When did you start wanting to be spanked as an adult?
  128. Who do you want to be spanked by as an adult?
  129. What is the reddest your bottom has ever gotten from a spanking as an adult?
  130. Would you be interested in being spanked by a machine?
  131. Would you volunteer as the target in a spanking booth?
  132. Would you like receiving bedtime spankings?
  133. Have you ever participated in a spanking contest? (a contest where you and a friend spank each other mercilessly and see who lasts longer)
  134. Have you ever been spanked nude in front of your friends?
  135. Have you ever been spanked until you cried?
  136. How often are you spanked?
  137. How often would you like to be spanked?
  138. How long are your spankings?
  139. Do you find violence sexually exciting?
  140. Would you consider a DD relationship?
  141. Why do you feel a need to be punished as an adult?
  142. What would you like to be punished for as an adult?
  143. Do you find the thought of getting spanked by your partner sexually exciting?
  144. Do you find the thought of spanking your partner sexually exciting?
  145. What is your favorite thing about spanking?
  146. Do your friends know you are a spanko?
  147. Do you self spank?
  148. What is your least favorite spanking implement?
  149. Would you describe yourself as a rule follower or a rule breaker?
  150. Have you ever spanked a partner?
  151. Do you want to be threatened with spankings?
  152. Do you like being lectured?
  153. Would you like an all day spanking day?
  154. What sex do you prefer to be spanked by?
  155. Would you ever see a dominatrix?
  156. Where do you like being spanked besides your butt?
  157. Who do you like to pull down your pants and underwear?
  158. When you get spanked as an adult, do you cry? Have you ever been spanked to tears?
  159. Have you had a birthday spanking as an adult?
  160. Have you ever been spanked in the workplace?
  161. Would you ever want to be spanked in the workplace?
  162. Have you ever been spanked in a cemetery?
  163. Have you ever been spanked in a church?
  164. Have you been spanked on a wet bottom?
  165. Have you ever asked anyone but a partner for a spanking?
  166. How old were you when you got your first spanking as an adult?
  167. How long has it been since you got spanked as an adult?
  168. Do you ever try to get a spanking?
  169. Do you find spankings embarrassing as an adult?
  170. Did you get spanked on your wedding day/night?
  171. How do you like your spankings to start?
  172. Have you ever been spanked to orgasm?
  173. What time of day do you want to be spanked?
  174. Would you like to be spanked by two or more spankers?
  175. Do you masturbate after your spankings as an adult if you are not having sex with your spanker after the spanking?
  176. If you were being spanked with someone else, would you rather go first or second?
  177. Have you ever been to a spanking party?
  178. Do you want to pick your own implements?
  179. Do you prefer wearing a skirt or pants for a spanking?
  180. Do you have other spanking related fetishes?
  181. Do you have any spanking related hard limits?
  182. Do you prefer fast or slow spankings?
  183. How do you respond to spankings as an adult?
  184. Have you ever asked to be punished for something you did growing up but weren’t caught?
  185. Have you been spanked with a butt plug in?
  186. Have you been spanked with a vibrator inserted?
  187. Have you been spanked wearing a gag?
  188. Have you been spanked while bound?
  189. Do you enjoy being spanked on a still sore bottom?
  190. Have you ever been spanked outdoors?
  191. Would you like to be spanked outdoors?
  192. What kind of spanking videos do you like to watch?
  193. What kind of spanking fiction/erotica do you like to read?
  194. Do you think being spanked as a child make you a spanko?
  195. What spanking phrases turn you on?
  196. What kind of spanking role play do you enjoy or want to try?
  197. What spanking implements have you been spanked with as an adult and what did you think of each?
  198. What spanking implements would you like to be spanked with as an adult but have not yet been?
  199. What spanking implements do you not want to be spanked with?
  200. What positions or special situations do you like to be spanked in as an adult?
  201. What positions do you not like being spanked in as an adult?
  202. What positions have you not tried being spanked in as an adult but would like to?
  203. What is your preferred clothing status during a spanking as an adult?

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Spanking Survey, Part 15

This post is a continuing series of spanking survey questions, now moving to questions about spankings as an adult. Previous parts are here: one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven, twelve, thirteen, fourteen.

What positions or special situations do you like to be spanked in as an adult?

All fours
Back of couch
Back of stuffed armchair
Hands and knees on bed
Hands and knees on the bed while sucking his cock
Laying on bed with spanker sitting on my back facing reverse
Massage table
Over center of bed on pillows
Over side of bed
Over stuffed armchair arm
Over the knee
Over the lap

What positions do you not like being spanked in as an adult?

I haven’t tried anything I haven’t liked yet!

What positions have you not tried being spanked in as an adult but would like to?

Backseat of a car
Bent over chair
Bent over desk
Car window
Diaper position
Diving board
Fallen tree
Gynecology table (pussy spanking)
Hands and knees on floor
Haybale
Holding shower rod
In the rain
In the shower
Kneeling on chair
Kneeling with my head between his knees
Knees on floor. Lean over bed w/ limbs tied down
Ladder
Ladder, library
Laying on bed with spanker sitting on my back facing reverse
Leg locked
Oiled bottom
On a wet bottom
Ottoman
Over a cannon
Over fence
Over ironing board
Over log
Over swing
Over the edge of the bathtub
Over the hood of a car
Over the kitchen counter
Piano bench
Piano keys lid
Piano lid
Spanking bench
Spanking horse
St. Andrew’s cross
Stepstool
Stockade
Stool
Table
Tied to a four post or canopy bed
Tied up to a hook on the ceiling
Tree limb
Under the shoulder
Wedge
While being figged

What positions are you not willing to be spanked in as an adult?

Over banister on balcony—I get vertigo from this kind of thing.

Over the shoulder – I’d be open to this and think it’s very sexy but my weight makes it prohibitive.

Wheelbarrow—That position always looks super awkward to me.

What is your preferred clothing status during a spanking as an adult?

I like starting clothed and then ending up nude. Of the options given with this question, this is my order of preference:

Naked waist down
In lingerie
Pants down, in thong/jock strap
Pants down, in tight underwear
Pants down, in underwear
Completely naked
In underwear only
Naked waist up
Fully clothed

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Spanking Survey, Part 14

This post is a continuing series of spanking survey questions, now moving to questions about spankings as an adult. Previous parts are here: one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven, twelve, thirteen.

Which of these spanking implements have you been spanked with as an adult and what did you think of each?

Belt, leather—I’ve only experienced it once but really liked it.

Belt, leather with cutouts/holes—I’ve only experienced it once, and the belt we were using was flimsy. It didn’t work well. I’d be willing to try again with a different one.

Brush, bamboo—It stings more than the wood brushes but this is my daily use hairbrush so it’s emotionally more powerful when it gets used on me for spanking.

Brush, plastic hair—Stingy but I like it.

Brush, plastic bath—Stingy but I don’t mind it.

Brush, wooden bath—Stingy and thuddy but I like it.

Brush, wooden hair – Stingy and thuddy and I like it.

Crop– I hate the damn thing yet I’ll also ask for it on occasion. I have two. I don’t like when it accidentally gets used as a cane on me.

Drumsticks—I actually really enjoyed these.

Flogger, leather – I have an imitation leather flogger that I love when used properly.

Flogger, mini—I really love the mini-flogger.

Hand—I like hand spanking. It also depends whose hand and how hard! I find hand spanking to be really stingy and I prefer more thuddy.

Paddle, leather—I have a bunch of leather and imitation leather paddles. I love them. They’re my preferred choice for spanking implements most of the time.

Paddle, ping pong – I really like this being used on me.

Rope—I hated this. It is way too stingy. Never again.

Spoon, wooden—I like the wooden spoon a lot. Most of my partners don’t like using it, though.

Tawse, leather—The leather tawse I have is really stiff. I bought it for pussy spanking, and it stings like holy fuck. It works better on other body parts.

What spanking implements would you like to be spanked with as an adult but have not yet been?

On these, the ones with stars are implements that I own but which I haven’t managed to get a partner to use on me.

Belt, braided leather
Birch, spray
Book*
Bread board
Brush, bakelite
Brush, clothes/laundry
Carpet beater
Carpet beater, mini
Ceiling fan blade
Cheese board
Chicken, rubber
Cribbage board
Cutting board, plastic
Cutting board, wood
Feather duster*
Flogger, braided leather
Flyswatter, leather*
Flyswatter, metal
Flyswatter, plastic
Gloves, leather
Hanger, plastic*
Hot Wheels track
Leather loopy
Leather scabbard
Licorice
Loopy toy
Martinet
Paddle, butter churn*
Paddle, jokari
Paddle, Lego board attached
Paddle, lexan
Paddle, lexan with holes
Paddle, plastic
Paddle, plastic with holes
Paddle, silicone
Paddle, wood large
Paddle, wood small
Paddle, wood with holes
Paint stick, plastic
Paint stick, wood*
Racket, badminton
Racket, tennis
Sandal
Shoe horn
Shoe, gym (aka plimsoll/sneaker/sand shoe)
Silicone spatula
Slipper, leather sole*
Slipper, plastic sole*
Spatula, bamboo*
Spatula, metal
Spatula, plastic*
Spatula, wooden
Spoon, bamboo*
Spoon, plastic mixing *
Spoon, wooden with holes*
Strap, leather
Strap, prison
Tawse, leather
Toy paddle*
Wet towel
Yardstick*

What spanking implements do you NOT want to be spanked with?

Belt, studded
Birch, single branch
Birch, judicial
Brush, metal
Cane, bamboo
Cane, rattan
Dowel, plastic
Dowel, wood
Electric cord
Flogger, rope
Flyswatter, electric
Frying pan
Gloves, vampire
Hanger, metal
Hanger, wood
Hose, rubber
Loopy johnny (neoprene)
Nettles
Paddle, spiked
Paddle, studded
Paddle, wood with horseshoe attatched
Piano wire
Plastic cane
Rolling pin, plastic
Rolling pin, wood
Sjambok
Squeegee
Strap, rubber
Switch
Toilet brush
Violin bow
Whip, bull
Whip, dragon tongue
Whip, dragon’s tail
Whip, dressage

Thanks to followers on Fetlife for helping me add to this list. Feel free to add more ideas in the comments section!

(continue to part 15)

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Spanking Survey, Part 13

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This post is a continuing series of spanking survey questions, now moving to questions about spankings as an adult. Previous parts are here: one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven, twelve.

What kind of spanking role play do you enjoy or want to try? I haven’t done a lot of role playing, but all of these ideas seem like fun to me. Since I’m into M/F spanking scenarios, these are phrased in ways that reflect that.

Airplane pilot/passenger
Boss/employee or secretary
Cab driver/rider
Cable guy/housewife
Chauffeur/employer
Chef/waitress or complaining customer
Client/sex worker
Cowboy/innocent pioneer girl
Customer/waitress
Detective/criminal
Director/actress
Doctor/nurse
Doctor/patient
Dorm monitor/student
Driver/hitchhiker
Electrician/housewife
Farmer/farmhand
Flight attendant/annoying passenger
Friend’s dad/naughty girl
Gardener/housewife
Groom/bride
Head butler/naughty maid
Janitor/shopper
King/dungeon prisoner
Knight/spoiled princess
Lifeguard/swimmer
Lord/lady
Magician/assistant
Mailman/housewife
Mall Santa/naughty girl
Master/genie
Master/maid
Master/slave
Naval officer/citizen
Park ranger/camper
Piano teacher/student
Pimp/sex worker
Pirate/wench
Plumber/housewife
Police/criminal
Police/speeding driver
Priest/confessee
Priest/nun
Principal/parent
Principal/teacher
Private eye/woman having affair
Research scientist/human lab rat
Room service/hotel guest
Santa/elf
Santa/Mrs. Claus
Santa/naughty parent
Sex worker/client
Store owner/parent of shoplifter
Store owner/shoplifter
Strangers
Teacher/parent
Teacher/teacher
Traveler/hotel maid
Trucker/hitchhiker
Uncle/teenager
UPS man/housewife
Warden/inmate

(continue to part 14)

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Spanking Survey, Part 12

This post is a continuing series of spanking survey questions, now moving to questions about spankings as an adult. Previous parts are here: one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven.

What spanking phrases turn you on?

This is a long list! Honestly, a lot of them do. Here are the type of thing that I love to hear or read in spanking stories. Many of these come from fetishes on Fetlife.

“A brat I know is going to shed tears tonight.”

“Am I ever going to have to spank you like this again?”

“Am I getting through to you yet?”

“Am I going to have to restrain you?”

“And why are you being punished little girl?”

“Answer me, young lady.”

“Are you beginning to regret your misbehavior?”

“Are you ever going to do that again?”

“Are you sassing me, young lady?”

“Are you trying to earn a spanking?”

“Ask me politely for your spanking.”

“Behave or you are going to get a harder spanking.”

“Behave or you are going to get a longer spanking.”

“Come here. I said, come here.”

“Count out the licks of the belt/paddle and thank me for each one.”

“Did I tell you that you could pull your panties up?”

“Do as you’re told, young lady, or else.”

“Do I need to pull your panties down and warm your bottom up?”

“Do I need to spank your bottom, little girl?”

“Do I need to start spanking with the wooden spoon again?”

“Do I need to use the backside of your hairbrush on you?”

“Do we need to do this again at bedtime?”

“Do we need to do this every day for a week?”

“Do you need a reminder?”

“Do you need a spanking, young lady?”

“Do you need an attitude adjustment?”

“Do you need another spanking again already?”

“Do you want a spanking, young lady?”

“Do you want another spanking, young lady?”

“Do you want me to bring your mother/sibling/friend/grandparent in here to watch me spank you?”

“Do you want me to take my belt off?”

“Do you want me to take you into the bathroom at the restaurant and pull down your panties for a spanking?”

“Do you want me to use your hairbrush for its other job?”

“Don’t ‘But Sir…’ me. You had your chances already. It’s spanking time.”

“Don’t push me too far, young lady, unless you want to pay the consequences. I promise they won’t be fun.”

“Don’t push your luck young lady!”

“Enough. Now come here.”

“Get in the backseat of the car, young lady. I’m going to be pulling your panties down for a spanking here and now. When we get home, you’re going to get another.”

“Go get my belt.”

“Go get ready for bed because after your spanking, you are going to be crying yourself to sleep tonight.”

“Go get your hairbrush and not another word unless you don’t want to sit for a week.”

“Go get your hairbrush.”

“Go stand/sit in the corner with your panties down until I decide you are ready for your spanking.”

“Go to your room and wait for me. NOW.”

“Have I made myself clear, young lady?”

“How many times am I going to have to spank you today?”

“I didn’t ask you. I told you.”

“I didn’t forget about your spanking, little girl. Now get over here so I can give you what you earned.”

“I didn’t raise you that way.”

“I don’t have a problem giving you a spanking if you don’t change your attitude.”

“I don’t think you’re really sorry yet.”

“I don’t want to spank you, sweetheart, but it’s my duty as your Dom. I have to do what’s best for you, and what’s best for you right now is a good, hard spanking on your bare bottom to teach you a lesson.”

“I know it hurts. That’s the point. Spankings are supposed to hurt. And it’s going to hurt even more before I’m done.”

“I know what is best for you, so you need to do as I say.”

“I know you are sorry, but you still have to take the spanking you earned.”

“I know you don’t think you will do it again, but I’m going to make sure you remember not to do it again.”

“I know you don’t want a spanking, but you need a spanking.”

“I know you heard me, young lady. Do as I said or I will be blistering your bottom.”

“I know your bottom hurts to lay on. You deserved that spanking I just gave you.”

“I love you, too, sweetie, but I’m still going to spank you very hard just like you deserve.”

“I promised you a good, hard spanking and now you’re going to get.”

“I think someone is getting too big for her britches.”

“I will decide when you have had enough.”

“I will keep spanking you until I think you’ve learned your lesson.”

“I’ll make that decision, young lady.”

“I’m ashamed of how you acted.”

“I’m doing this because I love you.”

“I’m doing this because you need it.”

“I’m going to blister your bare bottom.”

“I’m proud of you for taking your punishment so well, little girl.”

“I’ve already spanked you for this once before, and now I’m going to have to give you a much harder spanking this time to make sure you actually learn your lesson.”

“If I get to three, you’re getting a spanking.”

“If I have to spank you again for this, it will be much worse.”

“If I have to spank you again for this, you won’t be able to sit down for a week.”

“If you are still making bratty comments, I know your spanking hasn’t even gotten started yet.”

“If you don’t cooperate with your spanking, you’ll get another one tonight at bedtime.”

“If you don’t do X, I’m going to spank you.”

“In this house, you get spanked for acting like that.”

“It’s my job to turn bratty little girls into well-behaved good girls, and spankings are the best way to do that.”

“Keep it up and you’re going to earn a bare-bottom spanking.”

“Kiss the hairbrush and thank me for the spanking I’m about to give you with it.”

“No, I am not going to stop until I am certain you have learned your lesson.”

“NOW!”

“Roll over so I can spank your inner thighs and your pussy now.”

“Someone is going to be sleeping on her tummy tonight.”

“Someone’s bottom is going to be too swollen for panties tonight.”

“Spread your legs, little girl. Your pussy needs to be spanked, too.”

“Stay in position or you are going to earn extra licks.”

“Stop squirming because you aren’t going anywhere.”

“Tell me what kind of spanking you deserve.”

“Tell me what you did to earn a spanking.”

“That spanking I gave you yesterday must not have been hard enough because you’re acting out already.”

“That wasn’t a request.”

“That’s it. You’re getting a spanking.”

“The goal is to make you cry.”

“This is your last warning. Next time you act out you will be spanked.”

“Trust me, you will be crying your eyes out long before this spanking is over.”

“Upstairs. Now!”

“Watch your mouth, young lady.”

“We’ll discuss this later.”

“We’ll discuss this when we get home.”

“We’re nowhere near done with this spanking yet.”

“Well, little girl, you should have thought of that before you earned the spanking.”

“What did I say about talking back?”

“What did I say was going to happen if you did that again?”

“What did you do to deserve a spanking?”

“What happens when you give me attitude, young lady?”

“What happens when you misbehave?”

“When I tell you to do something, you need to listen.”

“Yes, it’s going to hurt. Spankings are meant to hurt. That’s how you learn.”

“You are going to be a sobbing mess by the time I am done spanking you.”

“You are going to be sleeping on your tummy tonight.”

“You are going to get a spanking when I get home.”

“You are going to get a spanking you will never forget.”

“You chose not to listen, and now you are going to have to pay the consequences.”

“You didn’t do what I told you to do, so now it’s time to pay the piper.”

“You get yourself upstairs and I’ll be up to deal with you in a minute!”

“You have earned a very hard bedtime spanking tonight.”

“You knew what would happen if you didn’t listen to me.”

“You know better than that.”

“You need a bare bottom spanking.”

“You need a good hard spanking to remind you how to behave.”

“You need a spanking, young lady, and I am more than happy to give it to you.”

“You need an old-fashioned spanking.”

“You were a naughty, naughty little girl.”

“You’re about to feel my belt, young lady!”

“You’re going to get a spanking for doing that.”

“You’re not crying enough yet, that’s how I know you aren’t truly sorry.”

“You’re not too old for a spanking, little girl.”

“You’re on thin ice, young lady.”

“You’re writing checks your bottom can’t cash.”

“You’ve been asking for a spanking all day and I am done giving you chances. Let’s get you straightened out now.”

“You’ve crossed the line. It’s time for your bare bottom to get spanked.”

“Young lady, pull your panties down now!”

“Your spanking is not over yet. I’m just getting started.”

“You’ve been a bad girl. Get across my lap right now.”

(continue on to part 13)

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Spanking Survey, Part 11

This post is a continuing series of spanking survey questions, now moving to questions about spankings as an adult. Previous parts are here: one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten.

How do you like your spankings to start? I prefer a slow start up with speed and intensity building as we go. I can tolerate more that way and the play session can be longer. I prefer starting over panties and then moving on to bare skin.

Have you ever been spanked to orgasm? No, unfortunately. I hope to experience this someday!

What time of day do you want to be spanked? Yes! All of them. Morning, noon, and night are all fine by me!

Would you like to be spanked by two or more spankers? I’m really not sure about this. Probably not. Maybe in future years I might see it differently. However, because I am monogamous and not an exhibitionist, it’s an idea that is not very appealing to me.

Do you masturbate after your spankings as an adult if you are not having sex with your spanker after the spanking? I’ve never not had sex with my partner after a spanking. Spankings are inherently sexual for me at this point in my life. I don’t do spanking with anyone but my sexual partner. I really can’t imagine spankings without sex.

If you were being spanked with someone else, would you rather go first or second? First, for sure. The anxiety would kill me to watch and wait.

Have you ever been to a spanking party? No, and I am not really interested. I’m not a voyeur or exhibitionist.

Do you want to pick your own implements? Most of the time, no. I prefer my Dom to take control and make the decisions. Every once in a while I will request something in particular, especially if I have a craving for an implement that’s not part of our normal rotation. My Doms are generally happy to oblige, especially if it’s a harsher implement than they’ve been using.

Do you prefer wearing a skirt or pants for a spanking? Well, either way, they get taken off! I don’t really have a preference. Both can be incredibly sexy in different ways. More often than not, I am in lingerie when spanking happens.

Do you have other spanking related fetishes? I love lingerie, butt plugs, bondage and anal sex, all of which are fetishes that mix well with spanking. I’m curious about rectal temperature taking and figging, but I’ve never tried either as of this time.

Do you have any spanking related hard limits? All of the following are off limits for me: shaming, humiliation, public spanking, spanking parties, video being shot, whips, canes, bruising, and lacerations.

Do you prefer fast or slow spankings? For sexual play, slower is fun with unexpected occasional bursts of speed. For more disciplinary play, faster spankings are more painful. Rapidly hitting the same spot five or more times in a row will really get my attention.

How do you respond to spankings as an adult? I generally continue to brat my Dom until he gets serious about spanking me at which point I start promising I’ll be good and begging for him to stop.

Have you ever asked to be punished for something you did growing up but weren’t caught? I would love to have a partner whom I could have help me rewrite some memories of traumatic abusive spankings if/when I get to a point that I’m able to do that. I’d like him to role play the firm, loving parent who didn’t spank out of anger but out of love and a sense of discipline instead. My parents’ spankings were very violent and abusive; I’d like a partner to give them in a much more controlled and ritualistic way that is filled with love. There were a couple of things I did as a teenager that my parents never found out about that I think he should spank me for, too. However, I’m not sure I will ever trust someone enough to do this or that I will get to a point psychologically where I could.

Have you been spanked with a butt plug in? Yes. It didn’t make much of a difference in my opinion. I love butt plugs, so they’re not a punishment for me. I haven’t been spanked while wearing a vibrating butt plug or a ginger plug, and I’m definitely open to trying those.

Have you been spanked with a vibrator inserted? No, but this sounds like a lovely idea.

Have you been spanked wearing a gag? Once. I’d be open to it again with a trusted partner. Most of my partners haven’t been able to earn this level of trust from me.

Have you been spanked while bound? Lots and lots of times. I love it.

Do you enjoy being spanked on a still sore bottom? I have not yet gotten to experience this but I very much look forward to it in the future. It’s something that requires harder play than I can emotionally handle right now.

Have you ever been spanked outdoors? No, not as an adult. I probably received some swats outdoors as a child, but I never got a full bare bottom spanking outdoors that I remember. My parents hid what they did to us from others.

Would you like to be spanked outdoors? I would be open to it if we were in a rural area where there were very likely to be no witnesses. I have some specific fantasies I’d like to fulfill!

What kind of spanking videos do you like to watch? In some ways, it’s easier to say what I don’t like. I don’t like silent spankees. I want them to fuss and cry. I don’t like violent spankings that are more like beatings. I don’t like humiliation and shaming. I’m not a fan of canes or whips. I can’t stand slow-mo videos. I’m not a fan of school spankings or spankings with witnesses unless its multiple spankees waiting their turns.

What I do like in videos is roleplay. I like a story behind the spanking. I like hand spankings, hairbrushes, small paddles, straps, spoons and belts. I like longer spankings that build up. I like spankers who lecture a lot during the spanking, and I like crying spankees who respond with words and tears. I like bratting. I like spankers who end the spanking with a hug (or more).

I really love homemade spanking videos by a couple who truly love each other. The laughter and love that comes through in those videos is beautiful. The Sarah and Heat videos are some of my favorites.

When I watch spanking videos, I generally only watch M/F or F/F. Sometimes I will watch F/M, but I almost never watch M/M. Watching men get spanked really doesn’t turn me on at all.

What kind of spanking fiction/erotica do you like to read? When I read spanking fiction or look at spanking art, my preference is:
1) M/F
2) F/F
3) F/M
4) M/M
For me, it’s the submissive female that is the most important part of the scenario.

Do you think being spanked as a child make you a spanko? No. I think there is too much anecdotal evidence from people who were never spanked as children who became spankos to believe that spanking fetishes result from childhood spankings directly. I think some of us are wired as spankos just as we are wired straight, gay, bi or pansexual.

(continue on to part twelve)

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Playing Too Hard, Part 1

In one of my recent relationships, my partner was a relative newbie to BDSM. I don’t have a problem with dating novices because we were all new to kink at one point. There are some advantages of being with newbies in that their egos are often not rigid around believing they know exactly what to do for every single partner they play with rather than adapting for each partner’s needs. They’re more teachable! On the other hand, novices often make newbie errors which can be literally painful. It’s a risk, but it’s one I’m willing to take if the partner is right for me.

The partner in question really hadn’t done much kink with other women. He identified as a switch, but I am a sub. I don’t mind switching on rare occasion, but it’s not my preference. Thus, this partner was topping me, something he didn’t have a lot of experience in doing. He loves spanking women, so that part of our fetishes lined up well as I appreciate a man who wants to spank me.

One of his fetishes that didn’t line up well with mine was that he liked bruising and marking. I don’t. It just doesn’t work for me. I don’t mind if accidental small marks happen, but if I bruise in a large way, then my Dom has been playing too hard with me. All of my partners have been aware of this and most have respected my limits. However, for the ones who had a bruising fetish, I have found many often pushed the boundaries to see how far they could take things with me. It’s become enough of a pattern that I’m now hesitant to play with any man who has a fetish for leaving marks or bruising.

When it came to this recent partner, he had some of the hardest hands I’ve ever been spanked with. He told me ahead of time that his hand was a brutal weapon. I didn’t believe him. He was right. I truly preferred crops, paddles, hairbrushes… almost any implement over his hand. He was a hard spanker, and he meant business when he began spanking.

The one day we had been having all sorts of kinky fun which involved flogging, hand spanking, and sex. After I had cum repeatedly, for some reason I ended up getting out my hairbrush and bathbrush collection for my newish partner to use on me. The activity became a test to see which brush caused which reaction from me. My partner wasn’t hitting me extraordinarily hard, but he was spanking me after we’d already had a session of flogging and his normal hard hand spanking.

The brushes were feeling rather ouchie, to put it mildly, but I just assumed that was his arm strength combined using the brushes on me. I’d never felt anything like it with previous partners, and I was enjoying the playful session a lot. Since I was on my stomach on my bed and don’t have any kind of useful mirrors in my bedroom, I couldn’t see what kind of damage my bottom was suffering.

It turns out I was enduring a lot. Probably because I was on a post-orgasmic endorphin high, I had no idea how hard he was actually spanking with the brushes, and I had no idea how red and bruised I was getting. Since he had no experience with spanking other women with brushes, he really didn’t know what he was doing either.

After a spanking session with a partner, my bottom is normally back to my normal pale white by the time we’ve finished, showered, and cleaned up. The only reason I’ve ever seen a cover of redness is if my partner takes a picture during the session. I fade quickly for whatever reason.

This time was different. A few hours later, my partner and I were watching a movie together on the couch. My bottom was really stinging in a very painful way. I couldn’t understand why there was so much burning and stinging. I finally had my partner look, and in a pleased voice, he let me know that I had a bunch of red welts and bruises. He took a picture to show me the damage. I was not happy about it though he obviously was.

Twenty-four hours later, he took another picture for me because I was still sore. The welts and redness were still quite visible though they were beginning to fade. I was very emotionally uncomfortable with what had resulted, but I knew that this was part of playing with a newbie. I made it clear to him that I didn’t ever want to play that hard again, and since I couldn’t see what was happening or tell the difference in how it felt, I was going to be depending on him to stop the playing or shift to less damaging implements when my body was starting to mark. He agreed. He hadn’t intentionally marked me, but he also wasn’t upset that it had happened.

However, I was upset. Deeply upset. I couldn’t figure out why. It took me a few more days to realize why the whole event was so disturbing to me. It turns out it had nothing to do with kink or my current partner.

(to be continued)

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